Photo: Vitorio de Janeiro Photo editing: Jonas Faremo Text: Jonas Faremo
Need to defend = need for love!
Here is a perspective for you.
Maybe not true,
but a point of view;
When we don’t accept ourselves the need to defend can arise when someone else have another opinion then ours. If we are in love (acceptance) with all aspects of ourselves, and are ok with the uncomfortable feelings – the need to defend don’t arise. Instead we automatically see that It’s just another opinion; everyone have their own.
Now to clarify this perspective; the feeling of “need do defend” is not the same as defending. If a flock of hyenas attacks a lion, the lion doesn’t get offended and have the feeling; “I need to defend myself”. It just defends itself with all its powers. It’s the same with humans. If we find ourselves in a swarm of bees we instinctively start to wave our arms to defend ourselves. We don’t get offended and feel that they are wrong and I am right. (Maybe afterwards we can create that feeling when we have time to think. When we think, we can be offended by absolutely everything, like a bus getting late etc…)
Why I love going deep below the surface of consciousness into the unconscious with myself and my clients is because here lays the things we think we need to defend. These are the things that run the show and create mayham without we knowing it. These are the things that makes us feel offended, afraid, irritated or angry on reality. These are the things that turn us from a loving generous fellow human being into a (passively) aggressive asshole/bitch. If we can see these mental and emotional patterns, traumas and believes for what they are we are free! That’s what the light of awareness can do. It’s beautiful to see someone becoming free – every time it feels like the room gets lighter. We don’t need defensiveness if we are ok with our shadow sides. And boy do we save a lot of energy when we don’t get offended and have the need to defend our point of view!!!
“As you drop the burden of defensiveness and resentment, you become light-hearted, joyous and free. In this joyful simple freedom, you will know that what you want is available to you whenever you want it, because your want is coming from a state of happiness, not from a state of anxiety and fear” – Deepak Chopra, the seven spiritual laws of success.
Imagine politicians that feel loved. How great and productive the discussions would be when each point of view can enrich the totality of a topic. Imagine couples where both feel loved. How nurturing and supporting can they be towards each other? How high can that relating take them, with no one getting offended, just being enriched by the others point of view? I would love to experience that for sure, so I guess I will have to start loving my shadows!
What is this?
This playful combination of word and image is an artistic project inspired by stillness. The text came out of meditation and is combined with artwork or photo from an artist. Our hope is that it will inspire to a small halt of reflection in the otherwise entertainment-heavy stream of pictures at the internet.
Artist: Vitorio De Janeiro is an Astrologer, who travels the world in exploration of Astrology, Shamanism, Art and Music. In his “previous life” Vitorio was an enterpreneur who ran businesses between United States, Brazil and Europe. www.AstroShamanic.com
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