You create your world!

by jonas | Jun 21, 2016 | Inspiration, Okategoriserade

Photo: Fenixx Kali Lovestar Text: Jonas Faremo

You create your world …and then worry about it.

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you are safe, there are friends and family around and you have money on the bank account but you still worry about not having enough in the future to be secure? Have that worry ever done anything good for you or your potential to be safe and secure?

When we strive for goals and objects we ruin the journey and the goal itself is turned into mind dust.

When we gain something we desired it is quickly turned into fear; fear of loosing it, fear of not getting that kick of acquiring again. So we turn to a new goal and strive. …and repeat.

We think possession makes us secure but it is the opposite since we desire them. They make us vulnerable.

The whipped cream on top of the mashed potato

There is usually another dimension added to this; we become addicts desiring desire itself. We desire desire because it provides a pleasant rush, a temporary kick. And as all addictions we get used to one level and need stronger desire – bigger challenges, higher goals, more pressure, bigger toys to feel the rush of desire. That restless strive never stops unless we stop it.

What to do?

What to do to make goals something helpful and not something that creates worry, lack, stress and pressure? How to allow abundance and happiness to become the predominate state of mind?

• See things as they are; things are things and goals are fantasies. And with that insight all is enjoyable in the now not causing lack, or suffering like stress and pressure.
• Have goals and things but don’t create desire for it. Have goals but create no expectations for it. Just do your best in this moment supporting the direction the goal points at. By the way, there will be no other moment for you to do that then now. Or another approach is to dream the goal and then forget about it. Instead trust that your intuition will guide you to receive what you desire.
• Become aware of the sublime inner process when you create desire for desire and stop it with love. Is it possible to feel a pleasurable sensation without creating desire for it? That’s the kind of questions that helps us become free of worry.
• Be present. And in this presence remind yourself of how you have what you need in this moment. See how you are supported in this moment. See things through the glasses of gratitude for while. These perspectives bring us back to truth. You are supported and have what you need in this moment in universe – because you exist.

What is this?

This playful combination of word and image is a purely artistic project inspired by stillness. The text came out of meditation and is combined with artwork or photo from an artist. Our hope is that it will inspire to a small halt of reflection in the otherwise entertainment-heavy stream of pictures at the internet.

Artist: Fenixx Kali Lovestar is a belly dancing apsara performance artist with an eye for “the image”.

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EMOTIONS is not a baggage

by jonas | Jun 7, 2016 | Inspiration, Okategoriserade

Photo: Mimi and Laura Text: Jonas Faremo

EMOTIONS is not a baggage!

You can have all the emotions that you want in life! …and you will have the ones you don’t want also wether you like it or not.

Emotions is not a heavy baggage that you need to get rid of. It is just emotions – neither bad or good. Life through you don’t make a mistake when emotions arise. They are like the wind, the clouds and the rain – in symbiosis with all. But we can be aware of the reaction to them. Awareness of emotions is what takes you from being a victim to being a master of emotions.

Without awareness we are in reaction to emotion without knowing it. And when we are in reaction without knowing it; we are a victim to outer circumstances. This is why humanity seem to be creating the same unsustainable results again and again even though we know better – we are victims to the conditioned mind which creates emotions. We are run by emotions.

Emotions is created in you as a reaction to outer stimuli or to our thoughts. They are old conditioning and perfect for what they are. Sometimes they can help us and guide us, sometime they are not helpful at all. If aware, we can hold a loving space for those emotions and act according to our better knowing. I don’t always know what the “better knowing” is but then I can always ask; “What would love do?” and see what comes up. Regardless of what I do I can allow the emotions to be there just like I don’t try to get rid of clouds on the sky while eating.

Outer events and people trigger emotions, if aware of the emotion we can act, if not aware of the emotion we react. Maybe we find ourselves annoyed, angry, irritated sad or offended? If unaware we try to find the reason of that discomfort on the outside and in other people. And if the reason is outside we blame or try to solve the outside. This is a reaction. It may take away the dis-comfortable emotion temporary because it is overrun by the kick of the ego who feels its in charge and in control, but that is a very short-term state and the emotion will come back and the ego will find itself out of control and not in charge, because it isn’t. And the mind-pattern of that emotion is also strengthened by us opposing it and avoid it with all kinds of elaborate strategies like “thinking of something else”, “do something fun”, or finding the cause on the outside and blame or try to change the outer world.

If you find yourself in reaction to emotions or have very strong emotions there is helpful perspectives/methods. Here is one of them;

Perspective: Emotions as a child.

See the emotions as a small child. Sometimes the child reacts to something and gets upset. What do you do when the child comes running to you crying and upset? You pick it up and hold it lovingly and say that all is ok and confirm the emotion; “-its ok to be sad dear child.” And after a while the child will be done and see something else and run away playing with that like if nothing happened. No trauma/conditioning is caused that the child will carry along in life. Conditioning like having the perspective that the event that upset or the person is “bad” or that the feeling of sadness is “bad”. They still learned what is beneficial for them or not by the event. No reason to cause trauma.

Now, what would be the opposite? The child comes running crying again. But this time we see it as a heavy bad baggage and we appose it, we don’t want that crying child. So we slap that child over the cheek and say “stop crying, don’t be a sissy.” (This is how most people deal with emotions.) And maybe ask the child what happened and try to solve the “cause” for the sadness. Maybe another kid played with his/her favourite toy. We go there and try to force the toy out of the other kids hands. Traumas/conditioning is created or strengthened in everyone involved in that situation and will grow over time.

Healing emotional patterns?

Yes they heal by themselves with a loving non-judgmental attitude towards them. The conditioning withers away. Its like the child. All it longs for is to be loved. And when it gets loved it doesn’t have to be upset anymore, it feels secure. Over time approaching emotions in a loving way, they will heal, that is they don’t need to get upset to to get love. They are loved/love.

Below is a list of uncomfortable emotions that may help you if you want to confirm the child and what it is feeling exactly. Its from Byron Katies website thework.com. And if you want to get help relating to your strong emotions more mindfully shoot me an e-mail and order a coaching session and I will be happy to support you on your journey.

What is this?

This playful combination of word and image is a purely artistic project inspired by stillness. The text came out of meditation and is combined with artwork or photo from an artist. Our hope is that it will inspire to a small halt of reflection in the otherwise entertainment-heavy stream of pictures at the internet.

Artist: Mimi and Laura is the kids of a friend of mine and are truly artists. Not just spontanious life artists but also trained in various crafts of art. Here they made me pose with a very fasshionable “baggage” and took a picture.

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List of emotions:

rritated

enraged

hostile

insulting

annoyed

upset

hateful

unpleasant

offensive

aggressive

bitter

frustrated

controlling

resentful

hotheaded

malicious

infuriated

critical

meanspirited

violent

vindictive

sadistic

mean

spiteful

furious

agitated

antagonistic

repulsed

mad

cross

incensed

loud

reactive

swearing

abrupt

quarrelsome

venomous

irate

shorttempered

stubborn

rebellious

exasperated

impatient

contrary

condemning

seething

scornful

sarcastic

overbearing

sharp

poisonous

insulting

disrespectful

jealous

ticked off

hitting

yelling

screaming

revengeful

retaliating

reprimanding

envious

disappointed

discouraged

ashamed

powerless

diminished

guilty

dissatisfied

miserable

despicable

selfdenigrating

self-hating

sulky

low

terrible

lousy

desperate

alienated

bad

pessimistic

dejected

bummed out

self-critical

selfdeprecating

gloomy

glum

disheartened

down

despondent

cheerless

rotten

masochistic

stuck

contracted

tight

blocked

despairing

hopeless

grouchy

off

moody

crabby

faultfinding

resistant

punishing

morose

cranky

grumpy

burdened

negative

closed

out of sorts

no energy

in hell

touchy

haggard

drawn

slumped

slouching

achy

doubtful

uncertain

indecisive

perplexed

embarrassed

hesitant

shy

disillusioned

distrustful

misgiving

lost

unsure

uneasy

tense

stressed

uncomfortable

comparing

dishonest

superior

disdainful

manipulative

judgmental

argumentative

authoritative

condescending

demanding

confounded

distracted

disoriented

off-kilter

frenzied

blushing

awkward

incapable

alone

paralyzed

fatigued

useless

inferior

vulnerable

empty

distressed

pathetic

distraught

doomed

overwhelmed

incompetent

inept

incapacitated

shut down

cut off

trapped

weak

sick

nauseated

fidgety

trembling

craving

hungry

squirming

jittery

woozy

twitching

compulsive

insensitive

dull

reserved

weary

bored

preoccupied

cold

lifeless

uncaring

uninterested

unresponsive

tired

robotic

slow

sluggish

fearful

terrified

suspicious

anxious

alarmed

panicked

nervous

scared

worried

frightened

timid

shaky

restless

threatened

cowardly

insecure

wary

menaced

uptight

apprehensive

attacking

defensive

dreadful

guarded

troubled

selfabsorbed

rigid

phobic

intolerant

disturbed

disrupted

intimidated

avoiding

unwelcoming

petrified

unbending

paranoid

inhibited

immobile

attached

prejudiced

agoraphobic

selfconscious

crushed

tormented

deprived

pained

tortured

rejected

injured

offended

afflicted

aching

victimized

heartbroken

agonized

appalled

wronged

humiliated

insulted

withdrawn

miffed

indignant

suffering

distant

invaded

bulldozed

bullied

secretive

slighted

smothered

belittled

tearful

sorrowful

anguished

desolate

unhappy

lonely

grieved

mournful

dismayed

downhearted

oversensitive

dirty

remorseful

sullen

sour

selfcastigating

unworthy

fragile

disconnected

devastated

blindsided

discontented

crying

groaning

moaning

stony

serious

stern

frowning

recoiling

glaring

disgusted

unfair

attacked

tactless

hurtful

bossy

stilted

stiff

brutal

combative

pushy

neglectful

stonewalling

rude

ranting

scolding

shrill

hard

fake

phony

shallow

taut

territorial

complaining

obsessive

blunt